My lifes over - need ur opinion specially females

[[Ch...]]

I don't think this is the right thread to debate gender issues and society; someone's welcome to start up a thread for that and I'd be happy to engage in it, but I think it's unhelpful to the original poster her.

 

Pity Klonopin -- I'm sure your anatomy is fine. The woman you're talking about sounds controlling and unhealthy, and you're making it pretty clear that she's toxic to you. If it were me, I'd try to cut the cord completely (no calls, no texts, no emails, nothing), wait as long as I needed to wait to get over my pain and unhappiness, and then go find someone who's not crazy.

 

I don't think any of the women who have responded to you were at all trying to imply that penis size is a fundamental, irreconcilable requirement for a relationship. Bodies are weird, no one is perfect, and if you're looking to commit to someone long term, then no matter how good you both look at the beginning, you're going to watch each other get saggier and less sexy until one of you dies anyway. That's how it works.

 

Xerxes I think it can be expected that any thread of this nature is going to provoke comments about gender issues and societal attitudes.

 

I think the question itself (do women really care about size) was somewhat unfair in that those very attitudes are largely going to shape a woman's response to it.

 

Chinook

 

 

 

 

[[pi...]]

I don't think this is the right thread to debate gender issues and society; someone's welcome to start up a thread for that and I'd be happy to engage in it, but I think it's unhelpful to the original poster her.

 

Pity Klonopin -- I'm sure your anatomy is fine. The woman you're talking about sounds controlling and unhealthy, and you're making it pretty clear that she's toxic to you. If it were me, I'd try to cut the cord completely (no calls, no texts, no emails, nothing), wait as long as I needed to wait to get over my pain and unhappiness, and then go find someone who's not crazy.

 

I don't think any of the women who have responded to you were at all trying to imply that penis size is a fundamental, irreconcilable requirement for a relationship. Bodies are weird, no one is perfect, and if you're looking to commit to someone long term, then no matter how good you both look at the beginning, you're going to watch each other get saggier and less sexy until one of you dies anyway. That's how it works.

 

Xerxes I think it can be expected that any thread of this nature is going to provoke comments about gender issues and societal attitudes.

 

I think the question itself (do women really care about size) was somewhat unfair in that those very attitudes are largely going to shape a woman's response to it.

 

Chinook

 

I think the OP was posting this out of hurt, hurt that he had been cheated on by the GF while still in withdrawal and unable to participate as fully in life as he would like to.  I don't he meant this to become a discussion about anatomy, he was calling out for support and help from BB members about his situation. 

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I don't think this is the right thread to debate gender issues and society; someone's welcome to start up a thread for that and I'd be happy to engage in it, but I think it's unhelpful to the original poster her.

 

Xerxes, When anyone discusses male/female relationships, that leads to gender and society issues. It's going to happen naturally. Some would use that as an opportunity to downgrade the particular gender that has offended or even that gender as a whole. Lots of people do that when discussing relationships gone wrong. When we get hurt, the tendency is to try to retaliate against the other and usually the gender as a whole.

[[Ch...]]

I don't think this is the right thread to debate gender issues and society; someone's welcome to start up a thread for that and I'd be happy to engage in it, but I think it's unhelpful to the original poster her.

 

Pity Klonopin -- I'm sure your anatomy is fine. The woman you're talking about sounds controlling and unhealthy, and you're making it pretty clear that she's toxic to you. If it were me, I'd try to cut the cord completely (no calls, no texts, no emails, nothing), wait as long as I needed to wait to get over my pain and unhappiness, and then go find someone who's not crazy.

 

I don't think any of the women who have responded to you were at all trying to imply that penis size is a fundamental, irreconcilable requirement for a relationship. Bodies are weird, no one is perfect, and if you're looking to commit to someone long term, then no matter how good you both look at the beginning, you're going to watch each other get saggier and less sexy until one of you dies anyway. That's how it works.

 

Xerxes I think it can be expected that any thread of this nature is going to provoke comments about gender issues and societal attitudes.

 

I think the question itself (do women really care about size) was somewhat unfair in that those very attitudes are largely going to shape a woman's response to it.

 

Chinook

 

I think the OP was posting this out of hurt, hurt that he had been cheated on by the GF while still in withdrawal and unable to participate as fully in life as he would like to.  I don't he meant this to become a discussion about anatomy, he was calling out for support and help from BB members about his situation.

 

Yes, I understand that he was in a hurtful and destructive relationship but he did ask the question, not just once either ...

 

"do women care so much abt penis size?"

"what makes u attracted to a guy's penis? It's size? Width? So ur saying anatomy does count?"

 

Perhaps the thread wouldn't have taken the turn it did if he had not asked that particular question and had just told us about his relationship difficulties.

 

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Honestly, saying "women don't care about size" is like saying "men don't care about boob size". The truth is, some men are going to care about boob size and some women are going care about penis size. It's a fact. So at the very least stating that women don't care about size is misleading.

 

That said, if she was with you for any length of time I think it is safe to say that it wasn't really a problem for her and it was nothing more than a cheap shot. This is probably the case most of the time. In other words, don't let it get to you cause that's exactly why she said it.

[[Be...]]

Men who haven't really grown up care about boob size. 

[[Pi...]]

I asked if women care about size because it is absolutely one of my obsessions caused by wd. I never had a problem with my anatomy before this, which pretty much secures this conclusion. Thus, im asking for help in coping with my benzo wd symptons - which this forum+section is all about. So i dont really get where ur coming from arguing that I went off topic talking about the details of the current sxs im struggling with.

[[Pi...]]

Based on my current major (im at the 3rd year) of psychology, I must opinate in relation to the gender issue, since after reading everything I feel like our fellow FG is being blamed on unjustified causes.

 

Men care more about womens anatomy than vice versa. Women care more about a mans self-confidence than vice versa. Our attraction mechanisms are different and hardwired that way - women need a partner who will help her survive while men need one who will help them get the best offspring possible (its a trade; genes for security).

 

What FG meant was not in any way that men have more rights when to comes to cheating than women. Since men are trading in for genes, they want the guarantee that this female will bear his genes in combination with hers in the creation of their offspring. Women, in the other hand, will want the male partner to stick around and ensure her survival while her offspring grows unprotected. Thus, if a man cheats with emotional bonds, by instinct a woman will suffer more. Meanwhile, if a woman cheats with sexual bonds (intercourse, etc) the male will suffer more than the vice versa case.

 

Reminding everyone that this does not favor any gender; were simply different. Also, this is not my personal opinion. It is a conclusion based on evolutionary biology.

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If this is the case, she sounds like she's just being mean for the sake of hurting you.  If she couldn't stand with you during w/d, she really wasn't worth your time.  That sounds cliche', I know, but this is coming from someone married about 3 years, who realized that this "cliche" is more or less true -- if you don't stand with eachother during the hard times, then there really is nothing there; if you don't have that, you don't have anything, as far as I can tell.

 

I am a woman.  For what it's worth, I don't care so much about size nearly as much as clit stimulation (I'm not trying to give TMI here, but that's really the only way that I get off.) I'm not the only woman like this.  Some do say that they are about size, but there are plenty others who that honestly doesn't matter to.  I personally couldn't give a damn about it.  Find a partner that you can play with toys with....you'll have a much greater time ;-) (sorry mods!)

 

-Tor

[[pr...]]

Men who haven't really grown up care about boob size. 

 

this gives me hope

 

PK, in this withdrawal i too have suffered from all my body parts and become totally obsessed about it. i can't wait until it settles down a bit as i know it will. talk about losing a boob loss. i feel very baren in that area so to speak.

 

Reminding everyone that this does not favor any gender; were simply different. Also, this is not my personal opinion. It is a conclusion based on evolutionary biology.

 

our views have changed so drastically since this evolutionary idea that at some point it will change in our biology and DNA.  not that what you wrote is the wrong way to look at it. but just at some point since our ideas about it have changed so much.

which is what i call true evolution

[[Ja...]]

Pretty, you made me laugh, and I've barely laughed in 2 years!

 

Sorry, but that was funny. Not laughing at you...but the way you said it "I feel very barren in that area"

 

I'm 5'7 and 101 lbs. But no muscle. All my fat is concentrated in a flabby behind and thighs.I ride an exercise bike a little, but have seen no improvement in the 8 months I've been riding it. Sigh...

 

If I coul get better and walk, I could strengthen my muscles, I know it. I'm very fearful this will never change...

 

                      Jadetortoise

[[pr...]]

Pretty, you made me laugh, and I've barely laughed in 2 years!

 

Sorry, but that was funny. Not laughing at you...but the way you said it "I feel very barren in that area"

 

I'm 5'7 and 101 lbs. But no muscle. All my fat is concentrated in a flabby behind and thighs.I ride an exercise bike a little, but have seen no improvement in the 8 months I've been riding it. Sigh...

 

If I coul get better and walk, I could strengthen my muscles, I know it. I'm very fearful this will never change...

 

                      Jadetortoise

 

so happy i could make you laugh Jade! you really need to laugh out of everyone here.

 

but i do, i feel barren in that area. i want my boobies back. it's so hard to not obsess about bodily parts while there is the rush of chemicals going on inside our brain at one seems like every moment until we healed.

 

i hope you are finding some reprieve Jade! i'm still suffering. little better but still bad off.

[[Be...]]

Men who haven't really grown up care about boob size. 

 

this gives me hope

All part of the service, prettydaisys.

[[pr...]]

Men who haven't really grown up care about boob size. 

 

this gives me hope

All part of the service, prettydaisys.

 

[[Mo...]]

Men who haven't really grown up care about boob size. 

 

this gives me hope

All part of the service, prettydaisys.

 

great, made my day. :2funny:

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About the gender issue and hard-wiring PK

 

Functional MRIs are telling us something though its perhaps too early to say what.

 

A male brain is predominantly "wired" from the front to the back of individual hemispheres, with little crossover.

 

A female brain on the other hand shows the majority of connections are from left to right, between anterior hemispheres.

 

I'm sure this could be made to explain a lot. Not least why I can't park the car but can offer numerous credible reasons as to why this may be.

 

There IS a gender divide, ignoring it is silly.

 

spartacus

 

 

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the pornographic stuff written  here has tainted my virgin eyes!!!(im kidding ) to the author of this thread  stamina endurance is more important to me than his  junk size and he  has to be very affectionate to me more importantly , im single since i dont want any more stress in my life that i have from my health problems

[[Mo...]]

the pornographic stuff written  here has tainted my virgin eyes!!!(im kidding ) to the author of this thread  stamina endurance is more important to me than his  junk size and he  has to be very affectionate to me more importantly , im single since i dont want any more stress in my life that i have from my health problems

 

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the pornographic stuff written  here has tainted my virgin eyes!!!(im kidding ) to the author of this thread  stamina endurance is more important to me than his  junk size and he  has to be very affectionate to me more importantly , im single since i dont want any more stress in my life that i have from my health problems

 

 

 

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Benz yourreply made my day. Ive never read anything as enlightening as this during my benzo wd. Thank you from deep inside.

Mate, don't mention it. I call it as I see it.

 

I might be obsessing here abt this bc of wd, but knowing if women care or not abt penis size will really calm me down - whatever the answer is

because he has a big todger

 

 

hmm i never heard of that word before "todger" i had to look on google to see that it was slang for a wiener

[[Be...]]

Hmm, now i am lost, i know its british slang but what on earth is a wiener ?

 

A weiner is American slang for a penis because weiners are hotdogs.  But the Brits have the best slang for practically everything

[[Mo...]]

Hmm, now i am lost, i know its british slang but what on earth is a wiener ?

 

A weiner is American slang for a penis because weiners are hotdogs.  But the Brits have the best slang for practically everything

 

LOL, thanks B, but Babyangel spelled it wrong,  ;)for a minute i thought she meant  a

viennese,

 

you are right, the British have the best slang, thats a fact. 

 

[[Be...]]

LOL, thanks B, but Babyangel spelled it wrong,  ;)for a minute i thought she meant  a

viennese,

 

you are right, the British have the best slang, thats a fact. 

Lol.. my pleasure.

 

But wait, now I'm confused, is a viennese slang for a vagina?

[[Mo...]]

LOL, thanks B, but Babyangel spelled it wrong,  ;)for a minute i thought she meant  a

viennese,

 

you are right, the British have the best slang, thats a fact. 

Lol.. my pleasure.

 

But wait, now I'm confused, is a viennese slang for a vagina?

 

Blimey, now i am going bonkers, viennese like from vienna,  :laugh: :laugh:

stop it please B, i'm laughng so much, nearly falling off my chair now.

[[ba...]]

i used to be a skype slut  from that i remmberd that nearly all UK todjers were not sircumsized !!  :2funny: