our college daughter - victim of human trafficking, through internet video game

[[ka...]]

Dear Benzo Buddies, thank you for helping me with my valium taper. your encouragement & words of wisdom have been invaluable. i trust you with our private crisis and so want to prevent this from happening to anyone of your loved ones. Though I am one parent, I am the voice of all the parents and families who are living with the horrors of internet luring of our innocent children for the purpose of human trafficking. The issue is real and our painful journey through this with our daughter has clearly heightened our awareness of what we have been told is the newest form of persuasive coercion, luring, grooming and human trafficking which began with a deliberate and meticulous indoctrination into the world of pornography through an online video game.  Our lives have been forever changed.  As with anything that can be beneficial, the Internet can also be dangerous. The internet is the key that opens the locked door of your home and every predator has your key. Once these predators have gained access to and the minimal trust of your child, the grooming and coercion begin with the sole purpose of enslavement and human trafficking. Children's fluent access to technology deepens the danger of this rampant evil.  This is the personal story of our 21 year old daughter who was an honor student in her final year of college, and how she quickly became a victim of human trafficking.  It is imperative that we keep her identity private.

Our private crisis began with a phone call late one evening in February. I say private crisis, for you see our daughter is not the only victim; the grief stricken family becomes the victim as well. As parents we are exhorted by law enforcement to not tell anyone of this horrific crime. That exhortation is given for the protection of our daughter, because the predator has access to her cell phone, Facebook, email… and if he should learn that we know where she is and what he has done to or with her, he can easily harm, sell or kill her. 

The predators in our nation/world are keenly aware of the legislation that will help minors in this horrific crime; so they are now targeting the college girls who are over the age of 17. Our daughter, who is trusting and naïve, an easy target,  was playing an online video game on her phone/X box and apparently befriended a person about two years ago.  Fortunately, we were able to gain a great deal of information about what had happened as we had a back door into her computer.

To our horror we discovered hundreds of pages of emails to a man who had gained her trust and began the grooming and coercion process immediately. He alienated her from family and friends, which is easily done with tiny invisible steps that begin with daily logs of essays she was “instructed” to write to him after doing a reading assignment from specific websites. With each essay he learned more and more about her vulnerabilities, family ties and priorities.  Daily, on a timed schedule, she had to send three photos of herself bowing in three positions and breathing him in, accompanied by daily food logs, exercise routines, and extreme sleep deprivation. She was congratulated each time she pushed loved ones away. Above all, she was to keep this relationship private.  By the time one finishes reading the emails, it is as if she is a young child talking to a very dominant man.

This is an excerpt of one of the 100’s of emails from him to our daughter:

“You have to force yourself to not run, force yourself to believe that I'm not going to abandon you. But most importantly you have to trust that I mean all the things I say to you. You are MINE I take that very very seriously you have to take it just as seriously. I am the first and only person you come to when u have problems,fears or just need someone to listen to you vent, and I am the only one that you come to if you need your other needs handled. I am your dominant, I am your brother I am your friend I'm also your owner. How can u be submissive to me when u can't give up all the things that have hurt you and will continue to do so until u give me ALL of u inside and out. I am yours as long as you are mine I protect you I shield you from the world I love you and I will demand to control you as long as you reciprocate by letting me do those things  without any fear. You are mine toy all of you.”

We were desperate for help and followed all law enforcement procedures. We contacted ICE, the FBI, & HWY patrol, who have investigated this, fully aware of the horror of this situation which is complicated by the fact that she is now 22. Due to coercion and trauma bonding she declined to leave with the officer doing a well-check.  It was explained that if she were under the age of 18 that they would have immediately extracted her from this dangerous man. The emails even gave the name of his next victim.

After he took her to another state we learned that she was working at a fast food restaurant and the sole support for the household.  I use the term loosely since there were nine people, six children and three adults, in a trailer/shack with no running water and no climate control areas.  She was in a very remote drug infested area many states away.  There was nothing we could do to free her.

As you read this you certainly may ask how a parent could let something like this happen. I would pose the same question; allow me to give you a few more details.  A little over a year ago we noticed some personality changes in our daughter. When she came home for a college break, she asked to see her physician who had treated her for ADHD for years. She made a 4 page,  8 font size list of symptoms for him. I was dumbfounded that she was struggling so, but in hindsight we now know that she was slowly becoming a victim of coercion. The work of her predator had begun well before he actually took her physically to his home. It was done in such tiny invisible steps that even she did not realize what was happening, she/we just knew something was wrong.

During the fall semester we began to notice that she was exhibiting a heightened anxiety toward her life decisions, which was perplexing because she had already established those plans. She began to withdraw from us, the phone conversations and texts were short and few.  From January till February communication was minimal. We tried to reach out and suggested counseling or taking time off from school, noticing she had become combative and more confused about her goals.  In hindsight we now realize this predator had control over her. She struggled with who she was and who he was creating her to be.  She is a victim, a number on the list of human trafficking statistics that continues to grow.  She is coerced and bound by invisible chains.  Unfortunately she falls between the cracks of our current legal system at this time.  It is our desire to share our story and by so doing we hope and strive to further educate families and eradicate internet luring human trafficking. please keep your families safe.

[[pi...]]

Hello kasey,

 

My heart goes out to you, your family and your daughter. It's unconscionable that something like this happens to young and vulnerable young people.  I'm at a loss for words.  I'm so very sorry.

 

pianogirl 

[[ka...]]

Thank you for responding and your kind words. I pray for good to come out of this horrific situation. May all of your loved ones remain safe. I think as a parent, there are times when we ponder how we would handle the loss of a child. I just never thought I would lose a child this way. so I am reaching out and hoping to prevent this from happening to others, education is key and helps bring about eradication. 

[[Ch...]]

Kasey,

 

As another mother of a daughter in her 20s, my heart bleeds for you.  I also have no words, and can't imagine the pain you must be going through.  One can only hope she will come to her senses and be able to leave this situation and return home.

 

Challis http://i280.photobucket.com/albums/kk166/Challis2/smileys-love-355737_zpsvfelsfi5.gif

[[La...]]

Kasey, thank you for sharing. So sorry, truly horrific. Our daughters personality has recently and dramatically changed, and could be the result of many possible causative reasons. Your cautionary story is well taken. Good luck.

[[ka...]]

Thank you! I so wish you and yours the best. So thank full you are staying on top of your teenagers changes. 

[[ka...]]

Just learned that with all of the evidence we obtained, it has caught the attention of national elite experts in the field of human trafficking, psychology of luring/grooming.... who will study our case, use it for training purposes and possibly help our daughter. Extremely thankful good can come from this horrific rampant crime 

[[pi...]]

Just learned that with all of the evidence we obtained, it has caught the attention of national elite experts in the field of human trafficking, psychology of luring/grooming.... who will study our case, use it for training purposes and possibly help our daughter. Extremely thankful good can come from this horrific rampant crime 

 

I really hope some good comes from this kasey and I really hope they can help your daughter. My heart goes out to you and your family. 

[[ka...]]

you guys have been a tremendous encouragement!  please share our story with others, remove the first 3 sentences and pass it onto others. send it to schools and colleges where your children attend. bring awareness to this growing issue and help prevent other children from becoming the next victim. I hope that is OK to allow you to share this, i do not want to break any guidelines. It's my hearts desire to prevent you from going through this heart ache, in addition to your persevering to the goal of healing. Thank you for allowing me to share this burden with friends. 

[[ka...]]

9 Most Dangerous Apps for Kids:

In 2013, a twelve-year-old girl was lured away from her home by a 21 year-old-man. Once they met, he took her to a motel and took advantage of her. How did this little girl meet this terrible stranger?

 

Through an app called Whisper on her handheld device (yep, the one her parents bought her). And Whisper is only one of many dangerous apps, apps that every parent should be aware of.

 

The Scary Truth

 

“The bad guy’s not just at the bus stop anymore. He has entrance right into your kid’s bedroom and hand-held cellphone device.” Sexual predators can target your children even when your child is in the room down the hall. And sexual predators aren’t the only problem. Cyber-bullying and exposures to sexually inappropriate content are additional concerns.

 

New apps are constantly being created, so it’s important to monitor what your child downloads. Being aware of the online tricks predators use will help you know what to look for. So here is a current list of some of the most dangerous apps:

 

 

 

 

 

Whisper - This app allows you to post secrets anonymously and also allows you to chat with other users in your geographic area.

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous: Many children are drawn to communicating with strangers, feeling that their secrets are safer with them than with their friends. This app is a perfect tool for ill-intentioned strangers looking to connect with young people because it allows you to exchange messages with people nearest to you (so anonymity can be easily lost).

 

YikYak  - All Yik Yak users are anonymous. They don’t create a profile or account, but they can post comments that are accessible to the nearest 500 people (within a 1-5 mile radius). A psychiatrist called this the most dangerous app he’d ever seen because it “can turn a school into a virtual chat room where everyone can post his or her comments, anonymously. Untruthful, mean, character-assassinating short messages are immediately seen by all users in a specific geographic area.”

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous: This app is causing problems in schools across the United States, with students maliciously slandering teacher, staff, and other students. In fact, several schools have now banned smart phones from campus because of this particular app.

 

Kik - A free app-based alternative texting service that allows texts/pictures to be sent without being logged in the phone history. (Similar apps: Viber, WhatsApp, TextNow)

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous – Makes it easier for your child to talk to strangers without your knowledge since it bypasses the wireless providers’ short message services (SMS). Children also think they can “sext” without parents finding out. In addition, strangers can send your child a “friend request.”

 

Snapchat – Allows you to capture an image or video and make it available to a recipient for a specific time. After that time limit is up, the picture/video automatically disappears forever…or so Snapchat claims. (Similar apps: Poke, Wire, and Wickr)

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous – Kids can receive (or send ) sexually inappropriate photos. This app also makes kids feel like they can “sext” or send inappropriate pictures without consequences because the image will self-destruct automatically. The truth is that nothing sent over the internet disappears. There are always ways to retrieve and capture those images.

 

Vine – Allows users to watch and post six second videos.

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous –While many of the videos are harmless, porn videos do pop up into the feed, exposing your children to sexually explicit material. You can also easily search for/access porn videos on this app. Predators utilize this app to search for teens and find their location. Then they try to connect with them via other messaging apps.

 

ChatRoulette and Omegle– These apps allow you to video chat with strangers.

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous – Not only are users chatting with strangers, they could be chatting with a fake stranger. “Chat sites like Chatroulette and Omegle have done their best to produce systems that warns users when the people they are chatting to are potentially using fake webcam software, however developers still manage to slip under their radars with frequent updates.” So a fifty-year-old man could set up a fake webcam and use images from a 15-year-old boy that looks like a teen celebrity to convince your child to send inappropriate pictures or get information about your child’s location.

 

Tinder – Users post pictures and scroll through the images of other users. When they think someone is attractive they can “flag” the image. If that person has also “flagged” them in return, the app allows you to contact them.

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous – This app, and similar apps such as Down, Skout, Pure, and Blendr, are primarily used for hooking up.

 

Poof – Hides other apps on your phone. You select which apps you would like to hide and their icons will no longer show up on your smartphone screen.

 

 

Why It’s Dangerous – If children have apps that they want to keep hidden from their parents, all they have to do is download this app and “poof,” their screen is clear of any questionable apps. So, if you see the poof app on their phone, you may want to ask them what they are hiding.

 

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:muscle: :muscle: growing up with three sisters i can only imagine your pain  >

:tickedoff:   i sooo wish i could ask for his address and have a few words with this scum bag!! but i cant get kicked off this site as it's my only real benzo support group 

you could try contacting a private contractor company like black water etc.. to see if they have any options i know they do extractions but i dont think on us soil probably illegal

my prayers are with you 

 

[[ka...]]

:muscle: :muscle: growing up with three sisters i can only imagine your pain  >

:tickedoff:   i sooo wish i could ask for his address and have a few words with this scum bag!! but i cant get kicked off this site as it's my only real benzo support group 

you could try contacting a private contractor company like black water etc.. to see if they have any options i know they do extractions but i dont think on us soil probably illegal

my prayers are with you 

Thank you! for,  well, everything!! you spoke from your heart and my heart certainly understood all that was said. interesting topic : mercenaries... yep illegal as are their deprogramming tactics, yet many use them... prayer is the greatest gift you are giving us/her. this mom is not giving up, with God's help we will rescue her and provide the necessary medical treatment. we are in a marathon.

God bless you