Sexual activity

[[Mo...]]

I am a nun......but nor forever....watch out !

[[...]]

once i hit 0,125mg......

i got HIT huge with XXX desire, that i never ever experienced in my whole life!!!!!

its very difficult to deal with it!!!!!

 

I'm developing some trauma behaviours,,,,

if i go out , i always get dressed as if I'm going to the night club and i LOVE people staring at me!!!!!

 

its bad!!!!! i know,,,,,but it helps with my constant agonising derealisation!!!!

 

p.s. i hope I'm not being to open about my XXX issues

 

please don't judge me!!!!

 

thanks

eva :smitten:

[[Mo...]]

Nobody is judging you Eva , don't worry !

[[pr...]]

eva, i think that's really cool that you LOVE people starting at you, i wish i was like that. as a performer, i should be like that. i'm gonna make myself be like this one day, thanks eva 

[[ME...]]

eva, i think that's really cool that you LOVE people starting at you, i wish i was like that. as a performer, i should be like that. i'm gonna make myself be like this one day, thanks eva 

 

sounds like you are moving forward Pretty

[[...]]

eva, i think that's really cool that you LOVE people starting at you, i wish i was like that. as a performer, i should be like that. i'm gonna make myself be like this one day, thanks eva 

 

Hey Pretty.

Why wait . You can do it starting with new year!!!!!

It really distracts and helps kill the time....you take your time with putting it.then going out....then removing....

Then repeat!!!!!

 

Really.dont wait for it.just make it happen......

I wish you peaceful Christmas and much more healing in 2015!!!!

You need that more than any of us!!!!!

 

Love

Eva

[[Te...]]

I am a nun......but nor forever....watch out !

:laugh:

 

Oh, WHY did you have to post that???

And then there were...nun

Nun but the brave...

Nun for me, thanks...

:laugh:

 

I'm tellin' you folks...when I do the gym late evening, this is what happens...

[[Mo...]]

I am a nun......but nor forever....watch out !

:laugh:

 

Oh, WHY did you have to post that???

And then there were...nun

Nun but the brave...

Nun for me, thanks...

:laugh:

 

I'm tellin' you folks...when I do the gym late evening, this is what happens...

 

Oh boy...... :laugh: :laugh:

[[...]]

so,,,,here will be confidential.... :o

 

we have a house help living with us,,,,and she is using Esthers old tablet, because my husband got for her an iPad,,,,

 

so he was using that tablet recently,,,,and he found on it a lot of P**n!!!! :idiot:

 

then he came to me and told, i know its not you because its asian :laugh: :laugh:

 

 

oh, boy!!! thanks for believing in me!!!!

 

[[pr...]]

eva, i think that's really cool that you LOVE people starting at you, i wish i was like that. as a performer, i should be like that. i'm gonna make myself be like this one day, thanks eva 

 

Hey Pretty.

Why wait . You can do it starting with new year!!!!!

It really distracts and helps kill the time....you take your time with putting it.then going out....then removing....

Then repeat!!!!!

 

Really.dont wait for it.just make it happen......

I wish you peaceful Christmas and much more healing in 2015!!!!

You need that more than any of us!!!!!

 

Love

Eva

 

eva,

 

yeah, i guess i should "why wait" and just do that. but the thing i still worry about is i am still way too underweight and very self conscious about that. i am still only 88lbs because of this deal. need to gain my weight back -- i should be 112lb, that's my goal.

 

so i think this may still be on topic of this thread -- but i cute guy smiled at me today while we were driving and it's been so long for me since something like that happened that i didn't know what to do? i kinda smiled back but then i just kept looking straight and was sinigng. i wanted to glance at him again 'cause he was kinda cute, but i just couldn't.

[[...]]

so,,,,here will be confidential.... :o

 

we have a house help living with us,,,,and she is using Esthers old tablet, because my husband got for her an iPad,,,,

 

so he was using that tablet recently,,,,and he found on it a lot of P**n!!!! :idiot:

 

then he came to me and told, i know its not you because its asian :laugh: :laugh:

 

 

oh, boy!!! thanks for believing in me!!!!

 

 

 

so, i asked my husband when you will talk to our help about this p*** on our tablet???

 

so here is what he told:

 

yes, i will talk to her and SHOW TO HER THE GOOD STUFF ON THE NET!!!! :idiot: :idiot:

 

no comments

[[...]]

oh Great, house help took our tablet home together with the charger!

now i can't charge my phone,,,,,i use the same charger,,,,

so i won't talk to my daughter till monday....

 

 

This is just so GREAT!!!! :idiot: :idiot:

 

not really, such a MONKEY!!!!!

 

eva :smitten:

 

 

[[Te...]]

oh Great, house help took our tablet home together with the charger!

now i can't charge my phone,,,,,i use the same charger,,,,

so i won't talk to my daughter till monday....

 

 

This is just so GREAT!!!! :idiot: :idiot:

 

not really, such a MONKEY!!!!!

 

eva :smitten:

 

Nothing to get charged up about. Here, use mine

 

 

[[...]]

oh Great, house help took our tablet home together with the charger!

now i can't charge my phone,,,,,i use the same charger,,,,

so i won't talk to my daughter till monday....

 

 

This is just so GREAT!!!! :idiot: :idiot:

 

not really, such a MONKEY!!!!!

 

eva :smitten:

 

Nothing to get charged up about. Here, use mine

 

:laugh:

 

its always nice to be generous with others,,,,,

 

there is one thing that needs No Charger- my Crazy Imagination :laugh:

 

 

take care, keep calm and keep reading my posts :laugh:

 

eva

[[cr...]]

 

If that girl surfaced for you don't think that you just need to push her aside, be honest with her and tell her that you'd still like to see her some times and she may very well respond positively. Maybe once she gets a taste she will anxiously await the Phoenix to rise from the ashes of benzo withdrawal, lol.

I like it haha. Thought about the attractiveness of being a Phoenix once before. I'll test the waters. Many thanks.

[[...]]

I would like to wish a Happy New Year to all participants on this thread!!!

its not easy to be honest with yourself!!!!

 

and i really appreciate and love honest people!!!!!

 

my X intrusive thoughts are calming down :laugh:

I'm starting more and more to think about food and different varieties of it to indulge myself

 

take care

guys

:smitten:

[[Mo...]]

Eva.

[[ma...]]

Need some help, a girl I know really wants to have sex with me and I with her but just the thought of it makes me anxious - I keep delaying because I'm really worried about it, worried that I'll feel ill with anxiety if we got together and that I'll unable to perform. I just don't know what to do, it might go great but it might go wrong and if it goes wrong I fear that it'll be awkward between us for a while as she's a good friend :/ Anyone got any tips?

[[...]]

Need some help, a girl I know really wants to have sex with me and I with her but just the thought of it makes me anxious - I keep delaying because I'm really worried about it, worried that I'll feel ill with anxiety if we got together and that I'll unable to perform. I just don't know what to do, it might go great but it might go wrong and if it goes wrong I fear that it'll be awkward between us for a while as she's a good friend :/ Anyone got any tips?

 

hey, I'm married and those things were happening in the past between me and my husband, i never got angry with him....

 

but i had a one friend in geneva, she was from belarus, so she was dating this very rich guy from georgia.....

he was getting expensive stuff gifts for her,,,,,,

so one time after long separation, they got together and he was not able to perform

 

so she got really pi***d off and she told to me:

 

/i really got so disappointed about that time, not to mention that he is not a tiger in the bed!!!/

 

i was shocked....... :idiot:

 

 

[[cr...]]

Need some help, a girl I know really wants to have sex with me and I with her but just the thought of it makes me anxious - I keep delaying because I'm really worried about it, worried that I'll feel ill with anxiety if we got together and that I'll unable to perform. I just don't know what to do, it might go great but it might go wrong and if it goes wrong I fear that it'll be awkward between us for a while as she's a good friend :/ Anyone got any tips?

Are you talking about ED or not finishing? If the former, yeah that's a problem and I'd try to deflect that. That's tough because there aren't a  a whole lot of excuses to for why you can't have sex, other than the common deflections or rejections. Like "I have to get going", "I really got to go" "I'm just not feeling it". And at that point, she might think you're not that into her and remove herself from the siutation. I'd probably keep it at bay for a while until your healthy again and hope she waits around until then. If the latter, all chips in and have fun. Not the end of the world if you can't reach climax.

[[Jo...]]

I get the sense there is a certain level of sensitivity or a type of political correctness i.e. social correctness on the forum. Anyways, I hope people are open to discuss in a healthy manner their struggles fulfilling their needs in their sexual life during taper and w/d. I'm sure there are many of us who do not have an adequate sexual outlet both physiologically and emotionally because of w/d symptoms. I'm not talking about loss of libido but emotional loneliness. Sex and love from someone of your preference is healthy in so many ways as we all know.

 

I'm a male in my 20's and the absence of sexual interaction even playful flirting is wreaking havoc on my psyche. Yes, I can look at it as one of the other symptoms that I just have to deal until things turn for the better. With w/d, talking with potential mates is extremely difficult because of cog fog and severe social anxiety. Masturbation is ok if in control for a sexual outlet but I have had problems in the past related to a dopamine deficiency which led to an unhealthy addiction. Before posting, I also read people having problems with masturbation and its ties to depression and anxiety while in w/d.

 

My morale is fragile during w/d and it takes an added hit when my natural impulses are being suppressed. I don't mean to sound whiny. Its just that I have literally no one to talk to regarding this. I don't want to make things awkward with my female therapist and friends, especially guys are not keen to lending an ear to sexual woes. Its emasculating. I have enough going on in my social support circle where my reputation isn't all that great because I've been a ghost for a better part of the year. Most people would say, well then go to a bar. Use an online dating service. Tried both. Hard to be likable when you're stuttering over your words and lose what you're trying to say mid sentence.

 

Thanks,

DR

 

Wow I've thought for a couple of years it was me.  Zero sex drive.  I feel for you being so young. I'm 52 and divorced.  Thanks for starting this thread.

 

If you think your therapist is bothered by you talking about sexual issues I would ask her point blank.  In a way I think therapy is a bit like dating in that sometimes there's just not a good fit; no one's fault but you're not getting the help you need.  However when you find a therapist that you trust and reaches you, you can make so much progress so fast.

 

I wish I had some words of advice about sex but I don't. I've only been with two women post-divorce. Neither worked out well; the second woman I couldn't even perform with. Like you my confidence has taken a beating and I've kind of isolated myself as a result.  As someone pointed out on this thread it's difficult to think of a relationship when you're fighting for survival hour by hour.

[[dr...]]

Need some help, a girl I know really wants to have sex with me and I with her but just the thought of it makes me anxious - I keep delaying because I'm really worried about it, worried that I'll feel ill with anxiety if we got together and that I'll unable to perform. I just don't know what to do, it might go great but it might go wrong and if it goes wrong I fear that it'll be awkward between us for a while as she's a good friend :/ Anyone got any tips?

 

It is very common regardless off whether we are on meds or not. Just so you know I had major issues on lexapro ejaculating and maintaining. k was tough on me too.  I'm actually 100x better off the drugs.  I have zero problems right now.

[[...]]

my husbands friend who takes psych cocktails, confess to him recently that he is taking viagra....

[[ma...]]

I'm worried about not being able to maintain an erection, I have no problem getting one but if I'm anxious I notice my mind's not focused, I'll loose it pretty quickly and I think it might hurt her feelings if that happened... There's nothing wrong with my libido though as I really want to have sex with her. A friend of mine suggested a cock ring to help maintain it, anyone have experience with these? I might see the doctor and see what she says - I don't know whether Viagra would be a good idea or not to tide me over until I'm more healed.

 

It's really sad that just a couple of years ago I had no problems going 4-5 times a night with a girl but benzos have completely taken that away from me

[[pr...]]

I'm worried about not being able to maintain an erection, I have no problem getting one but if I'm anxious I notice my mind's not focused, I'll loose it pretty quickly and I think it might hurt her feelings if that happened... There's nothing wrong with my libido though as I really want to have sex with her. A friend of mine suggested a cock ring to help maintain it, anyone have experience with these? I might see the doctor and see what she says - I don't know whether Viagra would be a good idea or not to tide me over until I'm more healed.

 

It's really sad that just a couple of years ago I had no problems going 4-5 times a night with a girl but benzos have completely taken that away from me

 

can you tell her your fears of possibly not being able to maintain and erection because of what you're going through?

 

or do you just not want her to know anything of what you're going through.

 

otherwise, i say take a chance and a risk it.