Doctors are human, too

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I recently had a reason to visit an Oncology ward at a Children's Hospital.  To see the sweet faces of those brave little kids, and to observe the repoire between them, and their skilled Doctors was a heartfelt, humbling experience that I will not soon forget.

 

To become a general practitioner, a surgeon, or a specialist, takes many years of hard work, and sacrifice.  The hundreds of medical terms they must memorize, and become familiar with are staggering.  Even Webster, and Funk&Wagnalls would have difficulty with deciphering such an array of convoluted words.

 

Doctors must be familiar with, and be able to recall, the names of hundreds of prescription medications.  To prescribe the inappropriate one for a patient, can, and do have dire consequences for all those involved.   

 

Do Doctors make mistakes?  Does the sun set at night?  Of course!  But, for every mistake, or misdiagnosis, I would venture a guess that there are thousands of instances where mistakes were not made, and lives were saved.

 

I realize that some Doctors can come off as being arrogant, dissmisive, and callus.  Maybe that is the personality they were born with, or perhaps it is because, according to the Food and Drug Administration, from 30 to 50 percent of all patients ignore or otherwise compromise instructions on how to take the medication that was prescribed for them.

 

I have spoken favorably of Doctors in the past, but, after seeing them interacting with so much compassion, and kindness with the kids at the Children's Hospital where I visited, I came away with a new found respect, and admiration for all they do.

 

I did not write this to minimize, to irritate, or to aggravate anyone who may have had an unfavorable experience with their Doctor.  Withdrawing from Benzos, in, and of itself, causes an individual enough irritation, and aggravation to last a life time.

 

I am just so darn proud of the Doctors, who I observed, dressed in their colorful, kid-friendly attire making such a profound difference in a litle girl or a little boys young life.

 

 

 

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PJ... 

 

You have such a wonderful heart! Your rt, I know exactly what your saying.I feel the same. I lived for 5days. Very long 24 hours a day awake in the oncology and CICU and then PICU ward.. My god what I witnessed was nothing short of Miracles all day. I spent time with the head of these departments and watched how they took care of the smallest of humans everyday with such Care. The meds were given accordingly. Can they mess up ..O yes. There human just like us. I also spent time with the parents of these small children. Time ill never forget. I have so much Faith in doctors even today I do. No I didn't get too walk out of that PICU with my daughter,And No I didn't get to have the Medical support during my w/d . That's cause they just don't know enough about this w/d. What I did have was a very strong Hard Minded and Abrasive Head of Neurology come to my daughters room and pull me and my husband out of there and said.. "Are you Katie's parents? Yes. Listen and listen real good. Go call HOME rt now and get everyone you know HERE rt away. Why? Your daughters gonna DIE tonight." WTH. no expression no remorse no sensitivity.Just Solid! Now Do it he said! My husband looked at me and said..Jennifer!!!! What do we do? The doctor interrupted and said Do It now and don't ask your wife she doesn't know. He said shut the F up.All you doctors from day one wouldn't listen to her.She knew her Heart was wrong ,She knew her Brain was not rt. You all ignored her .You all said my daughter  was fine had a Virus.The blood ran from his face.He looked at me and I said ...Yes she is ..I just knew. Plus that Hard Insensitive and Cold Head of Neurology knew. I knew he did. Lets say the my husband couldn't restrain himself .Security was called and Doc was being removed with force. Huge I mean Huge conference was held with every Head of department .Called us in and said I am so sorry what he did. That's the head of Neurology he has never done that before.My apology's sincerely. Hes wrong he doesn't know this.I don't have any indication or reason that your daughters going to die .Please call Home and tell them its was a mistake she is NOT going to Die ,Not today as far as her tests show. I'm no fool I listened that Hard doc he shook me to my core. I know Tuff Love and he was giving it and Hard. I believed him. I did call Home no doubt. Except I called the wrong # .I called my Childhood home my god I haven't called that # in over 5 years it was disconnected. But that's how much of a impact he had on me. I called HOME.That was Home to me.Lets just say my Daughter died 2 1/2 hours later .Everyone who ever loved her or me or my husb was there room. It was so filled it went down the hallway. All the other parents were there also who's children I got to know during my stay there. The head of Cardiology was there he preformed her open heart surgery 2 days prior to all this. He was such a beautiful soft gentle old man who looked like Santa to me .He stayed the whole 2 hours it took for her to pass .What a Angel. Anyway sorry for the long story.But there were many doctors in this situation and some were Rt.Some were Wrong. But the one who made the hugest impact in my life.Was the Hard Cold tuff Love one.He was the Right one!!!And I just knew it.To me he was a Angel. They thought I was gonna Sue.Noway I will forever Love that Doc. There are 2 people in my whole Life who have used Tuff Love on Me. And those 2 people have changed the Outcome of a very dark situation. Theres a special place that no other has ever touched in me other then these 2 people .I hold them close and am forever Grateful for what they've done for me!!!

So Yes there are many factors when doctors are concerned and they can make mistakes. I just love them no matter what.

Sorry about the long post !

~Jenny

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jenny,

 

I am speechless.  I will let this quote by Ashley Smith convey my feelings.

 

"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams."

 

your friend

 

pj 

 

 

 

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Aww PJ..

 

I loved that quote.. It was beautiful! Thank you PJ..

No No don't be speechless ! lol. I know I rambled on to much .I just have such a respect for doctors and there commitment they give..

 

I think its so nice what you said about the Children's Hospital.. I remember ever small face I was so lucky to meet when I was there.Ill never forget them .Or all the doctors for what they did to help my Daughter

 

Your friend ~Jenny

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PJ,

 

I get what you are trying to say, I really do.  My sister is a doctor and a good one at that.  I've also had some experiences where the benefit outweighed the harm, so I'm not "anti-doctor". 

 

But despite your intent, for me, at this time in my life, the devastating harm,  in so many different ways and the reprecussions of each, that I've incurred at the hands of more than a few doctors over the last 10 years disallows me to have much compassion for even those with the best of intentions.  So again, while I understand the intent of the message you are presenting, all it does is cause me frustration.

 

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WWW,

 

I know that you understand what I am saying.  And I understand what you are saying.

 

You are a very kind, and a very intelligent woman, who has gained the respect, and admiration from many members on this site who look up to you, and appreciate your candid advice, and genuine sincerity.

 

I am sorry that you have had to deal with the consequences of being misdiagnosed, and humiliated by so many different doctors. 

 

I won't make any pretense that I can understand your pain, and your anger.  How could I?, how could anyone?  We cannot begin to comprehend what you must tolerate day in, and day out, because of what you have gone through.

 

You are something else.  I mean this in the most sincere, and kindest way.

 

pj 

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Jenny,

 

My heart goes out to you for what you have had to suffer. Moms really do "know" don't they.  I was crying as I read your post.  Good to feel those tears though.

 

I live near a fine Childrens Hospital as well and believe that everyone that works there is very special.  I used to volunteer there and hope to do so again in the future, perhaps when I retire.

 

WWW I know its so hard to let go after all the trauma you have suffered. At times I feel the same way.  I am saddened and upset when fine people are not treated with good care.

 

pianogirl 

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PJ,

 

That was increadibly gracious.  I know that your life has not been easy and probably one of the things I admire most in you is your ability, despite what I'm sure are fully justified reasons to feel hate, you don't. 

 

Your posts are thought provoking (even when we don't agree lol) and the many games you have posted have provided me with a plethra of needed distractions.

 

It is a pleasure to know you

 

WWWI

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WWW..

 

Aww ...

 

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PJ,

 

That was increadibly gracious.  I know that your life has not been easy and probably one of the things I admire most in you is your ability, despite what I'm sure are fully justified reasons to feel hate, you don't. 

 

Your posts are thought provoking (even when we don't agree lol) and the many games you have posted have provided me with a plethra of needed distractions.

 

It is a pleasure to know you

 

WWWI

 

"Aw-Shucks"    That's what I say when I am down in Mississippi.  Nice to know you too.

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Pianogirl

 

Thank you for saying that.. Your rt Mothers just know. My second trip to the ER when she was hurting so bad 7 days prior to her death of her head hurting. I told them I am not leaving not until you do a Catscan of her brain and a Xra of her heart.They were like No were not doing that.Her heart is Fine . I said O yes you are. They said why do you think her heart is not OK? Its perfect I just listened to it. I said I just know I can feel my heart is off. Just do it I'm not leaving . After alot of looks and doubt on there part they knew I wasn't going to go anywere until they did.

Test were done and then came a Team running of 15 specialist all white coats. I was like OMG. They grabbed me I was alone with her.It was on a Monday early afternoon. Everyone else was at work. They said Mrs.... how did you know? How did you know what was wrong.Her heart is 3 x its size and she has Bleeding in her brain. What a sight .Thinking back it was so surreal . I could feel it I just knew.Anyway they shipped her off to Phili Children's Hospital. Next morning Open heart surgery and they found she had the worst Cancer they ever saw growing before there eyes.2days later that bleeding in her brain turned to 5 huge tumors .That's how fast her cancer grew . But I believe the Doctors did everything in there power to Help save her.

Aww I think its wonderful you volunteered at the children's hospital so sweet Piano!

 

I went back 4 years and did a Scrapbooking event with all the children there .I loved it. It felt wonderful to do something for those little kids.

 

Piano I just  love your new color Lime Green yay .Moderator that's wonderful Congrats!!!!

Im so sorry I made you cry Piano! But I do understand how in this w/d feeling any emotion can feel good!

~Jenny

 

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Jenny,

 

I cannot begin to express the sadness I feel for what you have been through.  I think unless one has been through what you have, it's absolutely unimaginable.  Your spirit awes me.

 

WWWI

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Jenny,

 

Yes I hear lime green is the color for spring this year!!!

 

You do so much to encourage and inspire others here, what a treasure you are.  I can only hope to follow in your footsteps.

 

PG

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Jenny, Thank you for helping us through this. After all you have been through, here you are helping us. Thank you, again and again.

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WWW.Pianogirl.Alexa...

 

Thank you all so much for such kind words...I know we all have been through so much ..All of us.

 

~Jenny