can you make it will little support

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can you make it with little to no support at all ?

my sister is the one near me and she is unreliable  and can be nasty and then and out of the blue supportive but its fake ... I would not be in touch with her  if it wasn't because she took me to her dr. that  poisoned me with K after I told him I had  ssri wd,  sensitive nervous system... I got  screwed and  i seem to be hypersensitive to other psyc. drugs...

 

I'm not working and not sure when I will be able to and living on disability... i need therapy and my sister said she would help me... and then she is flaky and aggressive...

I can deal with her changes of mood and  BS ... it gives me stress and anxiety and i affects my sleep .... this has damaged me in so many ways... Its hell to wd and deal with family crap.... how do you all do it the unlucky ones like me?

 

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You take help where you can get it and try not to stress about the personal stuff that comes with it.

 

You have to remember that your only goal is to get thru this in one piece, that is if you want to get thru and have the mind set to get thru.

 

So let the small personal stuff with your sister go and just take her help where you can get it and then spend your energy thinking of ways where you are lacking help. You can spend lots of time and energy with negative people so you have to let it go.

 

Sorry I know thats not what you want to hear but I wasted a lot of years worrying about negative people and the toll it took on me.

 

Good luck.

[[Ch...]]

I have a load of cr*p to deal with too and I know how it feels. If w/d wasn't bad enough, then the issues you talk about, then the anger and other negative emotions at having to deal with those issues...Ican relate.

[[bo...]]

I have a load of cr*p to deal with too and I know how it feels. If w/d wasn't bad enough, then the issues you talk about, then the anger and other negative emotions at having to deal with those issues...Ican relate.

I'm sorry you have to deal with crap as well, how are you managing?

[[NH...]]

can you make it with little to no support at all ?

my sister is the one near me and she is unreliable  and can be nasty and then and out of the blue supportive but its fake ... I would not be in touch with her  if it wasn't because she took me to her dr. that  poisoned me with K after I told him I had  ssri wd,  sensitive nervous system... I got  screwed and  i seem to be hypersensitive to other psyc. drugs...

 

I'm not working and not sure when I will be able to and living on disability... i need therapy and my sister said she would help me... and then she is flaky and aggressive...

I can deal with her changes of mood and  BS ... it gives me stress and anxiety and i affects my sleep .... this has damaged me in so many ways... Its hell to wd and deal with family crap.... how do you all do it the unlucky ones like me?

 

 

It has been my experience that people who make this healing process worse need to be kept at a distance. You have so much to deal with going through this that the last thing you need is anyone making it harder. A single lousy incident can set you back for a day or two and frankly that is just not worth going through.

I don't talk to my own brother for this very reason. I will interact with him during holidays or other such occasions but I purposefully keep it to a minimum. I have also cut any and all toxic friends out of my life, and you know what, it feels good to not have their crap on my shoulders any more.

If we weren't healing from this poison that damaged our brains then sure, we can take some BS from others and deal with it, but going through what we are it's just not worth it.

I am so glad that I got divorced long ago because there is no way I could cope with this healing AND deal with the non-sense I did in my marriage at the same time. The two just wouldn't mix. I need to be alone while I figure this all out and heal, and already I am feeling great. Nobody is adding to my stress and I wouldn't allow anyone to if they were.

Last night I went to sleep and even though it was time to take a pill I decided, "I'm just going to not take it and see what happens."

There was a time about a year and a half ago where that would have put me into a pure panic and I would never have tried it. I woke up feeling a bit rough but now I feel great.

If I had someone in my life causing me stress that would not be possible. Instead of feeling great right now I would likely be in a rage or a depression.

Your family are never going to understand what you are going through and they will think you are exaggerating your symptoms even if you are in fact playing them down. This is something that only those who are/have gone through it will understand. It is 100 times worse than quitting Heroine according to doctors. I've only seen how that looks in movies, but I do believe that most people would think that there is no way anything could be 100 times worse than that. Yet here we are.

While you heal you have to put yourself first and have 0 guilt about that. You can let the people in your life know that you need your space because they add more stress than they take away, but don't let them act selfishly and force you to take on anything more than healing right now. Healing is #1 atm. Making a list of the symptoms you hate and finding strategies to overcome them 1 by 1, worst symptoms first, should be your main goal.

 

Stay positive, and don't let others change that!

[[Ba...]]

I have no support and am alone.

It is not good.  You are better with not ideal help than zero.

 

Spoke to Baylissa once, she agreed... since do not even have support dr., therapist nothing, she could not advise me to taper (tho i so sic now).

 

Maybe deal with sister a bit then if you can hire someone or find someone preferable to help, then them...?

[[bo...]]

can you make it with little to no support at all ?

my sister is the one near me and she is unreliable  and can be nasty and then and out of the blue supportive but its fake ... I would not be in touch with her  if it wasn't because she took me to her dr. that  poisoned me with K after I told him I had  ssri wd,  sensitive nervous system... I got  screwed and  i seem to be hypersensitive to other psyc. drugs...

 

I'm not working and not sure when I will be able to and living on disability... i need therapy and my sister said she would help me... and then she is flaky and aggressive...

I can deal with her changes of mood and  BS ... it gives me stress and anxiety and i affects my sleep .... this has damaged me in so many ways... Its hell to wd and deal with family crap.... how do you all do it the unlucky ones like me?

 

 

It has been my experience that people who make this healing process worse need to be kept at a distance. You have so much to deal with going through this that the last thing you need is anyone making it harder. A single lousy incident can set you back for a day or two and frankly that is just not worth going through.

I don't talk to my own brother for this very reason. I will interact with him during holidays or other such occasions but I purposefully keep it to a minimum. I have also cut any and all toxic friends out of my life, and you know what, it feels good to not have their crap on my shoulders any more.

If we weren't healing from this poison that damaged our brains then sure, we can take some BS from others and deal with it, but going through what we are it's just not worth it.

I am so glad that I got divorced long ago because there is no way I could cope with this healing AND deal with the non-sense I did in my marriage at the same time. The two just wouldn't mix. I need to be alone while I figure this all out and heal, and already I am feeling great. Nobody is adding to my stress and I wouldn't allow anyone to if they were.

Last night I went to sleep and even though it was time to take a pill I decided, "I'm just going to not take it and see what happens."

There was a time about a year and a half ago where that would have put me into a pure panic and I would never have tried it. I woke up feeling a bit rough but now I feel great.

If I had someone in my life causing me stress that would not be possible. Instead of feeling great right now I would likely be in a rage or a depression.

Your family are never going to understand what you are going through and they will think you are exaggerating your symptoms even if you are in fact playing them down. This is something that only those who are/have gone through it will understand. It is 100 times worse than quitting Heroine according to doctors. I've only seen how that looks in movies, but I do believe that most people would think that there is no way anything could be 100 times worse than that. Yet here we are.

While you heal you have to put yourself first and have 0 guilt about that. You can let the people in your life know that you need your space because they add more stress than they take away, but don't let them act selfishly and force you to take on anything more than healing right now. Healing is #1 atm. Making a list of the symptoms you hate and finding strategies to overcome them 1 by 1, worst symptoms first, should be your main goal.

 

Stay positive, and don't let others change that!

Thxs for your post, yes I try to avoid, but sometimes I need a change of scenery, I stress about noone getting the wds and as i mentioned im not working because I can't , im exhausted most of the time...

[[bo...]]

I have no support and am alone.

It is not good.  You are better with not ideal help than zero.

 

Spoke to Baylissa once, she agreed... since do not even have support dr., therapist nothing, she could not advise me to taper (tho i so sic now).

 

Maybe deal with sister a bit then if you can hire someone or find someone preferable to help, then them...?

I can't hire anyone... im sorry you are also alone, are you tapering now?

[[bo...]]

You take help where you can get it and try not to stress about the personal stuff that comes with it.

 

You have to remember that your only goal is to get thru this in one piece, that is if you want to get thru and have the mind set to get thru.

 

So let the small personal stuff with your sister go and just take her help where you can get it and then spend your energy thinking of ways where you are lacking help. You can spend lots of time and energy with negative people so you have to let it go.

 

Sorry I know thats not what you want to hear but I wasted a lot of years worrying about negative people and the toll it took on me.

 

Good luck.

I think wd and especially benZo wd makes you more sensitive emotionally unfortunately

my sister is also has  anger management issues... bUt its true to let go and understand i'm alone in this 

[[Ch...]]

I have a load of cr*p to deal with too and I know how it feels. If w/d wasn't bad enough, then the issues you talk about, then the anger and other negative emotions at having to deal with those issues... I can relate.

I'm sorry you have to deal with crap as well, how are you managing?

 

Thanks for asking and apologies of the belated response. Been drowning under work lately.

 

best I can say is I am a bit better than I was a week or two ago. I feel the stress and maybe heat/humidity have put me into a wave.