Relationship with boyfriend in danger - advice?

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I’m about to hit month 5 after a very hard 4 month taper. He’s been with me through it all but I don’t think he can handle much more (as if I can.)

 

We had a really bad fight. He can’t handle how much I (desperately) need to talk about symptoms.

 

I welcome any positive advice on this. This insanity has taken enough from me. I can’t lose him.

 

R

[[Sa...]]

R,

 

Month 4 was brutal for me.  Month 5 is coming to an end and a little better now.  Several have posted about taking to their loved ones about sxs and their loved ones not wanting to hear about sxs.  I don’t think they can believe what we are going through! 

I’m blessed with a husband that doesn’t ask ... so I don’t tell him.  I come to bb and vent.

 

SaraSue 

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It’s relieving to read this. Not because you are suffering but because I thought I was strange for wanting to discuss my symptoms all the time. I know it’s annoying, but it’s like our brains are stuck trying to get over this. This process makes up very selfish. I’m constantly wanting to discuss my symptoms. My partner listens but I can tell she is tired of it. However, she will stick with me through it - no doubt.

 

This is not only a test of your courage but your partners as well. You will both be stronger when it’s over. Then the smaller things most relationships look over will mean so much more to both of you.

 

Good luck!

[[Yu...]]

My advice is dont reinstate no matter what happens with your boyfriend. In 2012 i quit benzos and was healed after 6 months. Then my boyfriend broke with me and i reinstated. Now i struggle for 2 years. It is much more worse. There are so many other boys and only one healthy you. Fight for your health it is your priority. Dont think about stupid boys. One of them ruined my life. Wish him go in hell just like me now.

[[Yu...]]

My advice is dont reinstate no matter what happens with your boyfriend. In 2012 i quit benzos and was healed after 6 months. Then my boyfriend broke with me and i reinstated. Now i struggle for 2 years. It is much more worse. There are so many other boys and only one healthy you. Fight for your health it is your priority. Dont think about stupid boys. One of them ruined my life. Wish him to go in hell just like me now.

[[Bl...]]

This is surely one of the hardest things we will ever have to go through , That is for sure . It is horrible . My husband is an RN and its even tough on him . I wonder what this is that causes this . I do it too and I hate it .

 

I did this also back in 2005 when I CT'ed Xanax , I didn't know anything about benzos or about  withdrawal and I did it then also .

 

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My bf is sick of me talking about it too. He says he is "totally burnt out." Now I have to go off a/d in a week which is gonna up my symptoms. lol. Oh well. I know its hard but just try and be mindful maybe to not talk about it so much and use these boards to vent.

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My husband has had to deal with me over the last nearly two years first my breakdown then AD’s w/d symptoms watch me get back on my feet a bit then diazepam tolerance and w/d along with the horrible symptoms I talk about it all the time and cry a lot he has been incredibly supportive but it is really taking its toll on him I can see the stress on him, I try not to talk to much about it but it is very hard as we all know, he needs a break but doesn’t get one really he works then comes home to me and has to take care of me , I worry that our relationship will never be “normal” and happy again. It’s tough for our family.

 

These poisonous meds affect our loved ones life’s too!

 

[[Ma...]]

Vent here. I know it feels like you should be able to tell your partner everything, but you can't, it's a myth. That said, if he can't take it, he can't take it, and at the end of this, you'll know who is there for you. It's a nasty test, it's terribly difficult, but it's what we got.