All alone for the week/Need support

[[mo...]]

My husband and son are on a week long trip with youth group.  They left on Saturday and won't be back until Friday night.  I have been trying to keep distracted but it's A LOT of time  :'(  I heavily rely on my husband for everything in withdrawal.

 

Need to vent.  Last night I went out, which I never do because it affects my insomnia.  But it was for an energy healing at my cranial sacral therapist's.  I got home right after 8 and needed to walk the dog.  There's this neighbor that I avoid because she is very unpleasant.  Always telling us what to do.  She doesn't want ANY water from our sprinklers to go on her property.  Tells me our new patio cover ruins her privacy (it's not near her she just doesn't want us to spend time on our patio) and a multitude of other things.  So as I walked I saw she was talking in front of a neighbors house and I crossed the street and just waved to the other neighbor.  I kept going.  When I return to my house the unpleasant neighbor was waiting for me and yelled to me asking if I needed help taking my trash cans out.  She must have noticed that my husband didn't put them out but my husband told me not to worry about putting them out we could wait until next week.  I just said No thank you and hurriedly walked inside.  That set me off on rumination and upset that wouldn't quit. I tried to calm down.  I don't trust her.  Why is she being nice.  Does she feel guilty for the way she treats us?  I also feel like she wouldn't have talked to me if my husband was around and worried that she will try to talk to me before he gets back.  I woke up at 2am and couldn't get back to sleep, so upset.

 

The other morning I was walking the dog and passed a man with a big dog.  Sometimes my little dog will like a big dog and others no.  So my dog growled and barked.  The man said REALLY!!  in an angry disgusted tone.  I was silent.  I was upset for half the day after that! 

 

I feel vulnerable and any interactions with people are so hard to process.  I will be glad when my husband comes back and takes over the dog walking.  Please any support will help!  I feel a bit   

[[pu...]]

I've been there before! The little think can set us off. Just keep healing and when your husband gets home things will go back to normal. Take this new free  to maybe Do something you used to do around the house that makes you feel happy.

 

How was the healing session! What is a cranial sacral therapist? Sounds interesting I've never heard of it.

[[mo...]]

Hi Push!  Thanks for the support.  I always like your posts.  The healing session was really good.  I'm pretty new to CST.  It's a gentle type of body work that works on brain, spinal cord and sacrum(moves fluid and releases).  It can help with a lot of issues like brain injury and helps the central nervous system.  When I go she spends 2 hours with me it is very calming.  Thanks again 

[[Fe...]]

Hi! I can relate, my husband is go na a lot for work and he was gone for 4,5 months! In this time I had to live with my parents in law who only took care of our daughter. I could eat and sleep there but I was on my own for everything else. The taper was really hard and I've been very sick and also found myselff wound up after the littlest things that can happen in normal live. But I did really good and I learned that it wasn't that bad at all to learn to be on my own. It was really good for my self esteem. I could do it, YOU CAN DO IT. You "just" need to learn to rely on yourself.  Don't make everything harder on yourself than it has to be. Be kind to yourself. Good luck!

 

wenn

[[mo...]]

Hi Wenn,

Thank you, I appreciate your encouragement!      I'm glad I'm not the only one to have little things bother me in a big way.  It must be withdrawal and that means it will heal. We will heal!

[[Ma...]]

I have such neighbours, too. And I have a dog.. I know what you mean. And I am over a year bento-free. People still can make me mad..

 

 

If you are alone for the weekend - why don't you do things for your husband and son? I would perhaps prepare a cake, do the laundry etc.., or start a little beauty-makeover to yourself? - so that they see you were not helpless alone and they will enjoy coming home. And you will be so proud of yourself, hm?

 

see it as an exercise. If you do it good, your son will be happy about the brave mom. And your husband will see you as a nice woman instead of a patient..

 

chin up.

[[Sk...]]

Be Glad you have someone at all. Its very hard to do it by yourself. not downplaying what your going through, but if i had someone that was gone just a week and coming back, id be happy. wouldn't even think twice about the nightmare i was going through. I went and stayed with my daughter 2 weeks, came back home, live alone, got thrown back in my job, still in withdrawels, have been suffering MAJOR!!!! with no one at all. it could be alot worse for you.

[[te...]]

hi momert, are you okay? i have a hard time when my husband travels as well. are your husband and son coming back tonight? hope they make it back home safely and that you are okay until then. love, teegirl

[[mo...]]

Marigold, thanks for the inspiration!  I was able to clean house, grocery shop/bought flowers and am working on my hair and make-up now before I go pick them up.  All great ideas!! 

 

 

 

 

Hi Skpp, you are right, it could be worse and I really am grateful for what I have.  I'm so sorry you are going at this alone.  Must be very hard.  Hugs 

 

 

 

 

Hi teegirl, I'm okay and even slept last night so I was able to prepare for them coming home tonight.  Love back at you! 

[[Ra...]]

I'm facing the same thing as you in two weeks. My gf is going on vacation and I have to be alone the whole week and return to work after beeing on sic leave for 6 weeks. The days are no so bad, since I try to keep myself busy but going to bed/sleep is something I really fear.

 

Just try to keep yourself busy and stay positive I think. I things get really hard could you have some friends over?

[[mo...]]

Hi Raptureman, I understand about the nights.  I made it through and so will you!  GL with the new job and come here when you need support.