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So I'm just looking for support as been displaying some bizarre behavior the last few days like annoying my neighbors when there out having beers. Long story short I pissed them off and they got themselves and other neighbors day and night of all hours to do burnouts outside of my house and get drunk and talk shit about me all night. And not just me but my entire family Also and it's just driving me crazy because my family is losing sleep also but I'm really losing sleep right now I've only slept like 5 hours in the last 3 days my symptoms are all ramped up this reminds me of acute withdrawal in many ways. Please I need some words of encouragement
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Yeah you're right I use to be the type that can handle the stress from rivalries and confrontations but now the added stress is way way too much.
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I had some thing similar happen to me.  The best advice I can give is be the bigger person and resolve the issue with your neighbors.  Most people are reasonable and the relationship can be repaired.
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The same thing happened to me.  My neighbors had dogs who would bark and bark and bark at all hours.  I went to the animal control people and filed a petition to have the neighbors sited, which was a little more action than necessary, but I couldn't take it, and I didn't want to talk to the neighbors directly. They're a young couple, and the husband likes to sit outside with his buddies and toss back a few, and they get noisy as well. I spent most nights crying and upset about it, because I couldn't handle the noise.  My poor brain and my ears were taking a beating - side note - I actually went to see a neurologist for another issue, and told her about this.  She confirmed that our brains can be very overwhelmed and not process stimuli well in stressful situations, much less having the benzo issue to deal with...sort of like a saturated sponge that needs to be wrung out.

 

I finally talked to the neighbors and explained what's going on.  The wife actually came to me in tears, because she'd gotten a notice from animal control.  We talked, and once we both heard each other out, things settled down.  It took a little while for us to be friendlier, but now they text me to check up on me. Maybe you could mail them a letter and tell them you're dealing with some major medical issues and you're not always at your best.  I find that most people are fairly reasonable if you tell them you're not feeling well and going through some tough times.  If they continue to behave in ways to instigate problems and stress for you on purpose, you can always call your police/sheriff department and ask them to drive down your street a few extra times a night.  We had to do that when some neighbors a few doors down kept shooting off illegal fireworks this 4th of July...I was so jumpy, I'd cry and my poor brain was overwhelmed by the stimulation.  I went to the sheriff department and told them what was happening.  I filled out an 'extra patrol' card, and they'd come down my street at different times of the night for 2 weeks.  The illegal fireworks stopped within a couple of days, and I felt better knowing that my neighbors were being talked to by the sheriff who 'just happened' to be driving down the street. 

 

I'm super sorry you're going through this.  I know it's hard enough having neighbor issues when you're not going through the benzo blues, and this just makes it 10 times worse. I hope things settle down very, very soon. :thumbsup:

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Best not to piss anyone off on our state, we cannot handle the stress

 

Kind of a "Catch 22" though, isn't it.  If we tick someone off, it causes stress, and stress can make us do things that tick someone off. Sort of easier said than done, unfortunately.  :-\

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there doing this on purpose because they want me out of the neighborhood. It's not just one neighbor but a few of them I feel like it would make it worse if I called the cops. I have a family member  who smokes marijuana so they can call the cops on us anytime. It's like the neighborhood is joining forces to get me out. they think I'm a meth addict and it all started when these new neighbors moved in, in front of us and they started gossiping about me and our house is so close and I can hear every word they are saying and I got annoyed because they wouldn't change the subject so I got annoyed and started saying shut the fuck up in a low voice but they heard that and told some other neighbors and they told more neighbors and now it seems like everyone is revving there engine up  in front of my house all day and night. It's weird because it seems like these guys got nothing else to do..
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If you go to the police, they can do patrols down your street and your neighbors will not know you're the one who asked for the patrols. You can also ask the police to come out and talk with you and the neighbors and be a go-between in a conversation. If anything happens after that, the police would know the neighbors were harassing you. You could also try mailing a letter to the next-door neighbor and explain your situation. You never know...they might settle down. Is it possible you could move to a different neighborhood?
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Sounds like you have rotten nabes.  There are alot of nasty and rude people in this world now.  No manners.  I hate gossiping.  I made alot of enemies on the jobs I used to work at because I wouldn't gossip with them, and then I made comments about them to others about being sick of their putting others down and they found out.  Then they really hated me.  People can be so cruel.  Try to ignore them and keep to yourself and it will settle down. 
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To me if you can't rind anything else to talk about other than gossip then you really lack substance as a human being.
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To me if you can't rind anything else to talk about other than gossip then you really lack substance as a human being.

 

I agree completely.  Even talking politics is a step up from running other people down all the time.  I'm a woman and boy did I have to listen to all the infighting and hatred on the job all the time.  It made me nuts.  There was a girl I liked on the job alot and all the other girls would talk about her and make fun of her all the time.  She overheard them and then let loose of them with her mouth and then she got 3 days on the streets.  That really pissed me off and turned me off with all those gossipy girls.

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