Relationships during withdrawal?

[[Ge...]]

Have any of you noticed greatly increased friction with or changes of opinion about those close to them during withdrawal? Has withdrawal damaged any of your relationships significantly, and if so, have you been able to repair them?

 

I ask because I'm having a lot of doubts and problems with my girlfriend, and have been for a while. We've known each other for 6 years, but have only been together since just before I started to try to get off of klonopin (mid-late 2015). The withdrawal has undoubtedly put a great deal of pressure on our relationship, we are both extremely young (20) and I have been unable to go out and enjoy myself or do much of anything through this entire ordeal. Also, withdrawal often causes unintentional irritability and rumination, as I'm sure you all know/have experienced. And... that doesn't help. She and I are both argumentative to begin with, but this has made things very hard to handle. Things are said by both of us sometimes that aren't fully understood or intended, and they end up hurting one or both of us. I'm unsure, at this point, if it's salvageable. It's gotten to the point where I honestly can't stand talking to her sometimes, as bad as it sounds. I don't trust my memory anymore, but I'm unsure if this was ever the case in the 4 years of being friends before withdrawal.

 

What I think I'm asking is, have any of you had a similar experience because of withdrawal and been able to "mend" things? It would be quite terrible if we were to stick it out until I am healed only to realize the things between us were damaged beyond repair because of withdrawal. I'm not sure how to handle this in a way that is best for everyone. Ending a relationship and dealing with the aftermath isn't exactly going to make getting off klonopin any easier. lol

 

Apologies for the long post. I'm not sure if this even belongs here, but it's related to withdrawal enough that I felt it's worth asking. Thank you in advance for any responses.

[[Ma...]]

I'm having difficulty in my relationship as well. I've been with my fiancé less than two years. Up until my Ct two months ago we were very much in love and got along well and enjoyed each other's company. Now I feel annoyed by him. I'm always angry and edger and rude and sarcastic. He's very patient but it's hard. We attribute it to the fact that I'm just not well. I'm either physically sick or I'm severely depressed. It's sad because we're getting married in two months and we ideally should be over the moon in love. Most days I feel nothing for anyone or anything. It gets better some days and I have faith as I get better my personality will come back. I just hope our relationship is strong enough. I think it is. Good luck with your girlfriend. Communicate , that's what we do. I think as long as everyone understands one another it'll be ok.

[Guest [Lu...]]

Another lousy casualty of all this, I had opportunity with an angel last year, a woman totally on the level, beautiful, same geeky interests etc.... and there was NO way I could even begin to approach a relationship like this. I spend most days in Hell, have barely held my job, have barely kept my sanity. She was amazing, but there was no way I could have maintained a relationship or dragged someone into this miserable existence. A shame. At 45, chances like that are rare.

 

Not comparing to the difficulty of you guys and gals already in relationships/marriages going through this, argh.

 

This withdrawal has annihilated that part of life as well....

[[Ge...]]

It's sad to hear that this seems to be a common thing. Though it's a bit relieving as well. Thank you guys for responding. It gives me more substantial hope that things can work out once all of this benzo stuff is over with.

[[Tw...]]

Not to be a downer but a realist I suppose. The major factor my wife and I got divorced was bc of this and the snowball effect over years of me not being myself after tolerance. If you love your partner, do whatever it is you can to make them happy and maybe when its over things can begin to thrive. Loosing my bestfriend will haunt me till the day I die and if I can pass on some advice about relationships during withdrawal, its straight up fake it till you make it. Hope things work out for you both.

[[Ca...]]

My newish partner and i seperated due to the extra stress of my accident, same, same as WD for intent and purpose... I was my idea (with much professional imput). She wasnt happy, and i wasnt going to drag her through it...

Looking back, we would never have made it, and nothing good would have come from it... Instead we remained good and valued friends...

Not quite the same as a lengthy committed relationship, I know...

I would suggest communicate, listen, use external resources, and dont drag it out to the bitter end, if thats the way its going... In some situations, space now may result in love and respect later...

 

As Luke mentioned, There is no way in the world that I will  involve anyone in this current mess... And those that have said they understand, have not a clue... -All in good time...

 

I think many relationships can get through this, but it will take work, dont neglect that aspect, and im a big fan of Good professional help... sooner rather than later...

 

Best wishes to all...