I love those words....They give me strengt!

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"Give me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference. "

 

 

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Sundance I always love your posts but on this one oddly I don't like this prayer. Something I guess to do with AA which again bothers me. I think it goes back to when I was a kid and my dad got involved in AA. For a year. He'd repeat this non stop but with tongue in cheek because he was told every meeting to EXPECT a relapse. So he bided his time, picked the right opportunity and had his totally necessary relapse. Lol for the rest of his life. Booze didn't do him in though. Not even close.  I like the quote Benzo girl has by Lewis Carroll. The hurrier I go the fartherer I get behind. Something like that. Thinks that fits with life in general not just benzos. My son opted out of AA too because all they talked about was booze, relapsing etc. He drank even more. Quit on his own and picked golf as his new friend. Sober 7 years. So I guess they either went to bad meetings or missed something. So I don't like that prayer simply for personal reasons. B

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Sundance I always love your posts but on this one oddly I don't like this prayer. Something I guess to do with AA which again bothers me. I think it goes back to when I was a kid and my dad got involved in AA. For a year. He'd repeat this non stop but with tongue in cheek because he was told every meeting to EXPECT a relapse. So he bided his time, picked the right opportunity and had his totally necessary relapse. Lol for the rest of his life. Booze didn't do him in though. Not even close.  I like the quote Benzo girl has by Lewis Carroll. The hurrier I go the fartherer I get behind. Something like that. Thinks that fits with life in general not just benzos. My son opted out of AA too because all they talked about was booze, relapsing etc. He drank even more. Quit on his own and picked golf as his new friend. Sober 7 years. So I guess they either went to bad meetings or missed something. So I don't like that prayer simply for personal reasons. B

 

Oh Thank you B  . For me is this words something I heard from a priest when my brother died for 3 years ago, I was a mess and so sad and depressed by grief. He died very young and I couldn't handle it. I am an atheist that's why I took away "God" in this text.  I know AA use this. But it is strong words and it helped me during a hard time to accept that my brother was dead.

For me it is not a prayer...just acceptans ❤

I dont like prayer either, this is very personal to me...❤

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I also have mixed feelings, though I like it, it also reminds me of the month I was in forced alcohol detox (2015) Anyway, it's beautiful 

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I'm just cranky today and when my little brother died there were no words of solace for me. Just finally acceptance and believing he was at peace and safe. But if something helps you by all means take it under your belt and hang on to it. I'm giving myself some words of wisdom today. Think I'll finally get up out of this chair, stop posting for a bit and try to get some cleaning done. Meant no harm sundance. Just brought back bad memories as opposed to good. Hugs. B

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Sundance,I liked what you posted and I understand how it could help you through a hard time, I prefer not to add my feelings to dampen anything someone has started because I have found they put something down that is important to them. Sometimes it is best to give your thanks and not always feel a critique is needed. I believe that you never have to say you are sorry, if you stop before you post and think how it may affect someone else. All of us are just trying to get on with our Life the best we can, and if a few words helps then for a bit someone is feeling better.

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Keep the sun in front of you so the shadows will be behind you 

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Sundance,I liked what you posted and I understand how it could help you through a hard time, I prefer not to add my feelings to dampen anything someone has started because I have found they put something down that is important to them. Sometimes it is best to give your thanks and not always feel a critique is needed. I believe that you never have to say you are sorry, if you stop before you post and think how it may affect someone else. All of us are just trying to get on with our Life the best we can, and if a few words helps then for a bit someone is feeling better.

Thank you 

This is important words to me and I love them ❤

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Begood I meant no harm and having posted with sundance so often thought he'd understand. I think this forum is about sharing and if something is positive for one person that's great. Sundance knows I'd take his comfort above my own. Was only relaying circumstances where this prayer unfortunately isn't comforting to me for personal reasons but certainly if others find it comforting that's wonderful. I do my best to support others here even when I'm at my worst. I leave my own troubles out of it. Perhaps I was thoughtless but I was just sharing an unfortunate time in my life. Nothing more. I'll sign off now. Your post caused me great harm! To be chastised for a personal experience has upset me. You're critique of me was harmful and perhaps I'll just keep everything personal to me away from now on. If you knew me at all you'd see and understand I meant no harm. I always carry an attitude of whatever works is great. Enjoy your day. Mines ruined.

I'm sorry sundance. You know as I started my original post I love your posts! You're always a ray of sunshine. B

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Benzo Barb, I did not intend to ruin your day, but please be sure it is me, that caused you to be upset, I think that each one of us have much more going on and I guess today I was your trigger, but Sundance is a fairly new buddie here and I also just wanted to support her. I understand pain from loss of loved ones, there is no other pain than to lose Family members, so just maybe in some way I have helped someone here to feel better today whether with kind words and support, and maybe not so thoughtful words, that may have upset, it was not my intention, and from your posts you seem to be a very strong person. Do not let just one person upset your day, it is not worth it. 

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Begood I meant no harm and having posted with sundance so often thought he'd understand. I think this forum is about sharing and if something is positive for one person that's great. Sundance knows I'd take his comfort above my own. Was only relaying circumstances where this prayer unfortunately isn't comforting to me for personal reasons but certainly if others find it comforting that's wonderful. I do my best to support others here even when I'm at my worst. I leave my own troubles out of it. Perhaps I was thoughtless but I was just sharing an unfortunate time in my life. Nothing more. I'll sign off now. Your post caused me great harm! To be chastised for a personal experience has upset me. You're critique of me was harmful and perhaps I'll just keep everything personal to me away from now on. If you knew me at all you'd see and understand I meant no harm. I always carry an attitude of whatever works is great. Enjoy your day. Mines ruined.

I'm sorry sundance. You know as I started my original post I love your posts! You're always a ray of sunshine. B

 

You don't have to say you are sorry B. I understand. No problem. I also like your posts you know that. And we are all different people. I understood why you don't like it. And it is OK for me. 

All the best to all on BB you are helping me a lot with my questions and wondering. It was here I found out to taper.

And found a way to accept this nightmare with benzo

 

 

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Sundanceshaman, it is very helpful that you posted that particular poem at this time...because it has been running through my mind many times a day for the past week....and indeed it is helping me to stop wasting my time fighting the parts of this journey that cannot be changed no matter how hard I fight..I have paid lip service to understanding and agreeing with the intent many times through the years but now it is intense and very meaningful to my recovery....so, thank you!!!

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Sundanceshaman, it is very helpful that you posted that particular poem at this time...because it has been running through my mind many times a day for the past week....and indeed it is helping me to stop wasting my time fighting the parts of this journey that cannot be changed no matter how hard I fight..I have paid lip service to understanding and agreeing with the intent many times through the years but now it is intense and very meaningful to my recovery....so, thank you!!!

Thank you. These words say so much to me. Why fight something I can't fight. Benzo do this fight with me no matter how much I will try to hide, run thru it quick fix, or around it. I had to accept that it is out of my control. But I can do things too. Stop feel like a victim. Stop listen to benzo talking and go with the benzo flow. Acceptance is important to me.It has helped me a lot. I can be mad of this situation but it wouldn't help me. I can do the best out of a hard time by slow taper, focus on the good things that actually exist. I have less sxs. Only that is a wonder in my world 😁.

 

I have learned how benzo work, I have relearned to listen to my body. My inner voice. My fear went away when i understood what this was and is. The power of our mind is amazing. I feel my body healing. I do have bad days but what to do? Hide or face it? I face it and it sure is ugly and nasty sometimes but in the next moment I find a window. I see an end. I see a strong woman coming out of this.

 

Acceptans was hard I don't have to like it but accept. And those baby steps have make my life so much better. To enjoy the days when life still can feel good even if it is hard.

 

I love my life more than ever. And I am happy to help someone, it feels good deep inside of me. This words is my mantra. I think about this words every time when I feel down or my sxs hit the roof. When I feel enough is enough.

To accept changed my attitude. I am a positive person in my nature but benzo brought up a negative me and I didn't like me at all. So just find myself again is hard. But I see progress every day 

 

I have a jar that I put a note in every day. Something positive. This is my benzo freedom jar. When I am done with the taper and feel like myself again I will open the jar. Read the notes and see my recovery progress and what I had done. After that I will burn them and then I am done. Then I am healed. In my body, mind, spirit and soul

 

//Sun 

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Sundance, well said and very Hopeful, we all need that for sure..

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Sundance, "I have a jar that I put a note in every day. Something positive. This is my benzo freedom jar. When I am done with the taper and feel like myself again I will open the jar. Read the notes and see my recovery progress and what I had done. After that I will burn them and then I am done. Then I am healed. In my body, mind, spirit and soul" such a wonderful thing to do, I love your Positivity.  

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Just great Sun!  I love it! :thumbsup:

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Sun you really are doing awesome and I love your positive jar. Never thought of that but I do have a bucket list of all the things I need to do in life. Your positive attitude goes such a very very long way. B

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Those are beautiful words, Sundance.

 

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Sun you really are doing awesome and I love your positive jar. Never thought of that but I do have a bucket list of all the things I need to do in life. Your positive attitude goes such a very very long way. B

 

Oh a bucket list, I have one too. Many things I wanna do before me life ends. My jar is starting to have plenty of notes now. It could be like " I laughed until I cried happy tears" or " I drank my first cup of coffee in months and the taste was just amazing". Tiny little things that makes me happy or progress with my w/d. The brain need to focus on good things. I do have really bad days but there is always something we like. Like see the sun shine on a beautiful winter day. When I see my husband. Or my dogs love. The list can be long. 

 

Have you seen The Bucket list with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson? It is a very great movie. I cried and laughed when I saw it. 😊

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Sundance, "I have a jar that I put a note in every day. Something positive. This is my benzo freedom jar. When I am done with the taper and feel like myself again I will open the jar. Read the notes and see my recovery progress and what I had done. After that I will burn them and then I am done. Then I am healed. In my body, mind, spirit and soul" such a wonderful thing to do, I love your Positivity.

Thank you. It is a jar full of emotions and I guess when the day comes and I will read all my notes and burn them I will cry a river. This is my little secrets of joy, and what I have learned to respect or not taking for granted. It is so easy to do that when life just is there.I guess when we go thru this taper we changes. I sure has. Both mentally and existentially. I love my life more than ever. I love the taste of coffee, feel the sun shine on my face, to look at my husband when he sleeps or hear him breath in the night when I have insomnia etc

 

Life is still around us even during taper, I have been really sick during crazy cuts and I have been a mess. I do have bad days when my w/d is hard. But I see the beauty in life. Things I didn't noticed before.

 

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Sundance, "I have a jar that I put a note in every day. Something positive. This is my benzo freedom jar. When I am done with the taper and feel like myself again I will open the jar. Read the notes and see my recovery progress and what I had done. After that I will burn them and then I am done. Then I am healed. In my body, mind, spirit and soul" such a wonderful thing to do, I love your Positivity.

Thank you. It is a jar full of emotions and I guess when the day comes and I will read all my notes and burn them I will cry a river. This is my little secrets of joy, and what I have learned to respect or not taking for granted. It is so easy to do that when life just is there.I guess when we go thru this taper we changes. I sure has. Both mentally and existentially. I love my life more than ever. I love the taste of coffee, feel the sun shine on my face, to look at my husband when he sleeps or hear him breath in the night when I have insomnia etc

 

Life is still around us even during taper, I have been really sick during crazy cuts and I have been a mess. I do have bad days when my w/d is hard. But I see the beauty in life. Things I didn't noticed before.

Brings  :'( :'( :'( of Joy to read your words. I too believe we must Live our Life.