Help. I can't get up.

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Over Christmas people came over and I actually enjoyed myself, although it took somee strength out of me. Then at New Year I went to Wales to see my bf's parents. It was an absolute disaster and I barely made it home. That was yesterday.

 

Today I find that I haven't got the energy to get out of bed. This is scary. Especially after my window at Christmas.

 

My bf is home today but is going back to work tomorrow. I am dreading him going back.

 

How normal is it to not be able to get out of bed? Thanks Buddies. Gilly x

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Please reply. I am really worried. Gx

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I could barely get out of bed when I was doing a rapid taper. Prior to that, I was in tolerance withdrawal, crippled by GI symptoms, including diarrhea, that kept me in bed for months. Even now, I fatigue very easily after minor exertion. That's been my experience. Perhaps others have been through this too?

[[Fi...]]

Here it is Gilly.....

 

 

"...When we start to feel better, it is very typical to try to do too much. We are grateful to be alive and we have energy for the first time in weeks or months. But this can be a dangerous time. When we do to much and take on too much too early, it re-sensitizes the nervous system. It doesn’t prevent healing in the long term, but it can make us feel discouraged. So try to pace yourself, even if you are feeling good..."

 

http://www.psychmedaware.org/recovery_tips.html

 

Switch off the worry-searching right now - this happens to us all. Just re-gather yourself slowly over the next few days with acceptance and trust.

 

You'll be fine

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Gilly, I have trouble getting out of bed since I started the Valium.  I only dose 1 x a day at bedtime.  If I have to get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom lately I can't get up.  My husband has to help me up and walk me to the bathroom as I am very unsteady and weak.  I feel totally drugged and out of it.  In the morning I struggle but can get out of bed - it's by no means easy but I can do it.  This is such a roller coaster/just when I get a few days of relief and signs of improvement I get knocked down again. I know it's Terrifying and discouraging but I've read a lot of material and posts that it's all part of this horrific journey but we do all heal. Praying for us all.

 

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Hi Gilly

 

The problem of getting out of bed is not uncommon, so you're not alone. I think perhaps what others said is true . Holidays can be stressful times plus you had to travel to boot. Not so easy when you're feeling sick. I trust you will be able to get up once your body settles down. Do you have a friend or family member who can be with you when your bf goes to work?❤️

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Thank you so much for your kind answers. You are all superstars. I was in Wales for three days and as soon as I saw the parent's house, I knew I'd taken on too much. It was a nightmare and his Mum told me off for not helping myself. She is clueless.

When I feel like this I start having very dark thoughts again. This scares me a lot.

 

Betsy, no, I haven't got anyone who can stay with me. Hope you're okay.

 

FizzleWitch, you have got it bang on there. That is exactly what has happened. Thank you all. Gx

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Oh Gilly I am sorry, but I think you have taken on too much and it has knocked the stuffing out of you. Maybe you just need rest just now. Take it easy and try and relax and you are not on your own, we are all here for you!  Xx   

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Hang in there Gilly. No way your alone in this. Over Christmas etc your adrenaline was possibly at a very high point. Holidays over and bang adrenaline collapse. Boom in bed. It's pretty normal Gilly. Relax and try not to worry. Worrying is exhausting. If you can rest, sleep and veg. No harm in that. B

[[ho...]]

Gilly watch a Henry Cavill film. That should cheer you up!! 

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You are on a low dose, so please be confident. An upbeat attitude can be very helpful. The fatigue you are feeling is not your imagination. It is real. Fight thru it.

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Hey...

Glad to hear ur home... -just rest for a while... -as long as it takes, if u can...

A day to the Drs will put me in bed all day on day 2 and 3after... -and most days i spend 3-4hrs in bed through the day, and much of the rest taking it easy, -i pick up at night a bit... my last drop has put me back in bed again... feel like my body is full of setting glue... feel like i should b in hospital, but i know it will ease... I admire u for doing the trip in the first place... u stronger than me...!!

Hang in there, dont fight the rest u need from such a trip...

 

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There were those days that I just stayed in bed. it is okay. the fog will lift and you will feel better soon. tell yourself it is going to get better

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I can't believe the kindness of the buddies here. Thank you all. I smiled at the Henry Cavill thing, HelpfulScot. I am in bed again today. I can't understand why I went to Wales. Don't feel like I can ever get better but you guys have told me that I can.

Again, thank you all. Gilly x

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Glad you are in a more positive mood Gilly! Take as much rest as you need 

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Sorry I got your name wrong hopefulscot. I am not more positive. I am in a mess. I made myself get up to take down the Christmas decorations and I've ended up having a massive panic attack. I think it was my body's way of telling me that I should be back in bed. Now I am back in bed but very upset and the dark thoughts are back again. I wish my bf would come home. He will probably be 2 to 3 hours. Gx

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Aw Gilly ! You are def doing too much. Like Fiona said listen to your body and rest. You will be ok. Maybe try and have a sleep till your bf gets home. You never know you might have a nice dream about Henry Cavill ! We are all here for you ! 

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Thank you, sweetheart. You are so kind. Gilly xxx

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Hugs! Xx

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Sorry I got your name wrong hopefulscot. I am not more positive. I am in a mess. I made myself get up to take down the Christmas decorations and I've ended up having a massive panic attack. I think it was my body's way of telling me that I should be back in bed. Now I am back in bed but very upset and the dark thoughts are back again. I wish my bf would come home. He will probably be 2 to 3 hours. Gx

 

It might be important to remember at times like this Gilly, that these thoughts and that panic attack aren't "you". They are the products of a temporary-malfunctioning physical-physiological process because of downregulation caused by medications. You are on your way to healing - and these things, most assuredly, are signs of it.

 

Whenever I was doubtful about what was "me" and what was the temporary (but only that) "malfunction", I used to read Parker's Page. The info she has outlined there was never long in squaring me up and helping the "big-picture" understanding to flood in, in such a way as to alleviate urgency...

 

There's a link in my sig...

 

In the meantime, as others have said, you're not on your own; we are all here for you

 

 

Hugs

 

:smitten:

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Glad you are getting these flashes of improvement, Fizzle. x

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Thank you Gilly... 

 

By way of encouragement-that-counts: this time last year I was bedridden. For three or four months, I couldn't  stand for more than a minute or two and I could't walk other than by hanging on to the walls/doors or a helper of some kind. All of this in a constant state of panic & agoraphobia.

 

At that time, I couldn't tell that there was any improvement happening for me at all - and I suspected, with the sort of certainty that only 'we who know' can muster, that there wasn't any improvement happening, but 'probably' a worsening - and the same for months after I had "clawed" my way into being up and around just two rooms of the house...

 

I was very wrong about that - my addled, confused and upset perception was way wide of the anticipatory mark.

 

I feel now that, while not out of the woods yet, I could probably deliver a two-hour lecture to a hall full of strangers. However, this isn't at all "about me" - it's about everyone who is stuck in a similar position, right now, to the one I was stuck in back then: healing happens as time passes - nothing surer.

 

The same, or better, will happen for everybody here!

 

:smitten:

 

xxx

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Have only just got this message, Fizzle. Wow, you have been on quite a journey, but one which (witch?!) is improving all the time.

Thanks for your kindness. Gilly x

[[Fi...]]

Have only just got this message, Fizzle. Wow, you have been on quite a journey, but one which (witch?!) is improving all the time.

Thanks for your kindness. Gilly x

 

You didn't know witch spell to use? lol (sorry!)

 

:)

 

xxx

[[be...]]

Gilly

 

 

Sorry you don't have anyone. I get that as my family is more than worthless.👎🏿I hope you got some good sleep. I highly recommend watching any Coen Brothers movie 👍🏿 They are all hilarious if you have a sick sense of humor. like Saving Arizona.