Do you feel lonely and in extreme need for attention?

[[Pi...]]

I feel so lonely and so weak and in such an extreme need for attention that it kills me inside. I have an ex that cheated on me, and all my weak needy benzo mind thinks about is getting her back, and i feel horrible about it.. So ashamed of myself for being so weak and such a loser... Yet i crave attention and hate this loneliness

[[Lo...]]

you are not a loser and not weak. i think you are a very strong person for doing what your doing. this process is hard and its a lonely place sometimes. life will get better.  life just sucks at times and there is nothing we can do about it but go through it and learn from it. I've been cheated on too. it sucks man. but you will heal and find that person that is better for you. keep your head up and don't give up. life will be beautiful again.

[[Pi...]]

I feel like a weak loser for trying to get back with her after all she has done..

[[lo...]]

Hello PK

 

I am sorry you are still suffering like this. Of course you hate the loneliness of this situation. It is understandable you crave attention. This isolation is unnatural and tests us to our limits.

 

Your emotions seem to be all over the place just now. You met another girl and said she was the love of your life. Now you wish you were back with your girlfriend.  The loneliness mskes us want relationships with people whether or not those people are right for us or not. As long as you can understand what is happening and try to get through it, that is about all we can do.

 

I would love to have someone here, someone to be close to someone to care about me except when I feel really ill and then I am glad I am on my own.

 

You must not think of yourself as being weak or being a loser.  It takes a great deal of strength to have come as far as you have done.  Many people would have given up but you have not.

 

Recognise the positive aspects of your personality and don't put yourself down.

I hope you can hang on in there and get through this.

I am glad you have started a blog. 

 

Well done!?

 

LF 

 

 

 

 

[[lo...]]

PK

 

You can put the link to your blog in your signature so folk can just click on it. 

 

Just a suggestion.

 

LF

 

 

[[Lo...]]

don't beat yourself up man. its ok. its called experiencing life and emotions. sometimes you don't know what to do with them and you find yourself doing stuff you may not want to be doing. like trying to get her back when your mind knows you shouldn't. everyone has done stuff like that. its a hard and confusing situation to deal with. your doing good. 

[[Pi...]]

Thanks for the replies guys

 

Yeah, i just want someone to lean on and start thinking im in love with every girl i create a mutual attraction with. This is so crazy.. My emotions are so crazy right now, i barely feel like a man. Its as if im a woman going through he worst pmt of her life haha

[[lo...]]

HI PK

 

You will get into big trouble saying things like that. 

 

You men don't know the half of it!!!   

 

Imagine having PMS as well every month. 

 

LF 

 

[[Lo...]]

its not a man or woman thing. sometimes its just a human thing.  you may not feel like a man and I'm not sure what you mean by that but lol you are a man!!! it will be ok! at least you tried. i won't even put myself out there. good for you for doing even that!

[[Pi...]]

Society imposes to us men since were young that we cant be sensitive, and that thats a womans thing. Ive always been very sensitive, and now being even more, i feel like im not doing my function in society as a man; a guy who can control his emotions, be strong, and help his partner with their emotions.. Its a very sexist way of thinking, but most people have influenced me to be this way, thus making me feel less of a man when im weak and sensitive..

[[Lo...]]

its a shame society does that. me and my sister where talking about that the other day. i would rather have a sensitive man than not sensitive. hang in there man.

[[lo...]]

Society imposes to us men since were young that we cant be sensitive, and that thats a womans thing. I've always been very sensitive, and now being even more, i feel like im not doing my function in society as a man; a guy who can control his emotions, be strong, and help his partner with their emotions.. Its a very sexist way of thinking, but most people have influenced me to be this way, thus making me feel less of a man when im weak and sensitive..

 

Hi PK

 

The stereotypical male is just one kind of male.  Personally I would not want a man who was not sensitive. It takes strength to be in touch with your emotions and strength to talk about them. Many men suffer needlessly because they can't talk about their feelings.  It is not a weakness, it is just being human.  It is true that women seem to find it easier than men to talk about feelings.  This is another aspect of your personality which is a great positive, don't view it as a negative.  Many women will love you for it. 

 

Try to see all the positives in your personality and don't turn them into negatives.

 

Here is a good saying - "I am not a failure. I am just a success in the making." 

 

 

[[Lo...]]

Society imposes to us men since were young that we cant be sensitive, and that thats a womans thing. I've always been very sensitive, and now being even more, i feel like im not doing my function in society as a man; a guy who can control his emotions, be strong, and help his partner with their emotions.. Its a very sexist way of thinking, but most people have influenced me to be this way, thus making me feel less of a man when im weak and sensitive..

 

Hi PK

 

The stereotypical male is just one kind of male.  Personally I would not want a man who was not sensitive. It takes strength to be in touch with your emotions and strength to talk about them. Many men suffer needlessly because they can't talk about their feelings.  It is not a weakness, it is just being human.  It is true that women seem to find it easier than men to talk about feelings.  This is another aspect of your personality which is a great positive, don't view it as a negative.  Many women will love you for it. 

 

Try to see all the positives in your personality and don't turn them into negatives.

 

Here is a good saying - "I am not a failure. I am just a success in the making." 

 

you are exactly right about this looking forward......everything she just said. don't listen to other men about what women want. listen to women about what we want out of a man. remember just because a woman does something doesn't mean its a weakness. just be your sensitive self. i promise you will have more dates eh. 

[[Pi...]]

Hahaha thanks guys!! 

[[Di...]]

There's nothing wrong with being sensitive as a man.  I think a lot of women want a man/partner who is sensitive.

 

You're not recovered yet, but you will be when you heal.

 

You will meet that special someone when the time is right.

 

So sorry you are suffering.